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“What’s my purpose?” isn’t one of them.

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Most people have no idea what their life is about. Ask a random person and they’ll give you the deer in headlights stare.

Purpose is essential for your wellbeing. Without it, you feel like you aren’t complete. People deal with this void in different ways, but distraction ranks high on the list of coping mechanisms. The famous soccer player Paul Gasgoine resorted to alcoholism after his career ended and he couldn’t find a new purpose. Getting wasted might numb the pain, but it will never fill the hole.

Your coping mechanisms might be less drastic, but that doesn’t make them any better. You keep your drinking to the weekends, but life still drips out from you, one blackout and Netflix episode at a time. …

Insights from a “popular kid.”

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In the 1980s, most Americans had three close friends. By 2006, that number shrunk to zero.

In what’s dubbed the loneliness epidemic, half of US adults feel alone or left out, and one in four report they rarely or never have someone who understands them. That’s terrible. Humans are social animals and need deep intimate friendships to thrive and be happy. But what makes a true friend?

I was one of the popular kids in high school. I was smart, outgoing, and didn’t mince my words even in front of teachers. …

It’s harder than you think.

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72% of people experience interesting new ideas in the shower. This number seems rather low to me, especially given the fact the study was conducted by shower manufacturer Hansgrohe. Interesting marketing tactic, but there seems to be something to it.

Psychologist and cognitive scientist Scott Kaufmann says there’s a reason you connect with your inner genius while you rub away dirt and rinse down body wash.

“The relaxing, solitary, and non-judgmental shower environment may afford creative thinking by allowing the mind to wander freely, and causing people to be more open to their inner stream of consciousness and daydreams.”

When you take a break from your hectic everyday life, you listen to your inner voice instead of drowning it in external noise. It’s a great way to let your subconscious present you with valuable ideas — if only there wasn’t a simple yet significant problem. …

#2: Feeling like a fraud.

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“The only constant in life is change.” — Heraclitus

When I was a kid, I loved playing outside and rolling around in the mud. But as I got older, the dirt on my clothes gave way to the handheld console I played Pokémon on. I grew once, and so did you.

When I was in high school, I was scrawny. But I started to lift dumbbells and eat more, gaining muscle and weight. I grew again, and so did you.

When I went to university, I only cared about partying and making money once I had my degree. But today, I’ve found something I’m passionate about despite the mediocre pay. …

In a world of abundance, restriction becomes your superpower.

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Over the last few years, I’ve made a paradoxical observation. The less I have, the happier I am.

You and everybody else around you have been brought up to think that more is always more. The conventional wisdom is simple math — but life isn’t simple.

Happiness doesn’t follow the rules. If it did, the people with the most money, most friends, and most possessions would be the happiest. Yet we all know a rich and powerful but stressed and miserable boss, a well-connected but unhappy and unfulfilled friend, and a rockstar having everything you could ever yearn for, yet still taking their life.

5 cheat codes for life.

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I just chose the photo because it looks nice. I was a PC-only player and never touched a PlayStation or Xbox. | Photo by Florian Gagnepain on Unsplash

“Have a good night!” “Dude, it’s 8 am.” My best friend and I laughed before we turned off our computers and went to bed. It had been a long night of hacking away at monsters and collecting epic bounty. The next day, we’d both get up at 3 pm, have breakfast and tell our families we were still alive, then start the whole cycle anew.

I’ve spent years playing computer games. From Monkey Island and FIFA over Guild Wars and World of Warcraft to Call of Duty and Counter-Strike. According to my xFire statistics, I’ve poured more than 10,000 hours into jumping, fighting, shooting, and leveling up. …

I’ve watched it twice in one week.

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“The world is not as wild as it was. Well, we destroyed it. […] We have completely destroyed that world. The nonhuman world is gone.”

— David Attenborough

I don’t have a TV. Neither do I have a Netflix, Amazon Prime, Disney+, or any other subscription. I’m a writer and apart from a YouTube channel I have very little clue about what goes on in the world of moving pictures. I’d rather read a book.

But last week, a friend sent me a screenshot of David Attenborough’s A Life on Our Planet, along with a compelling “Stop what you are doing and watch this now!”

Lessons from hitting rock-bottom.

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Two years ago, I was in a dark place. Mindless and pointless distractions ate away most of my time. A toxic relationship and negative friends held me back and sucked the energy out of me. I studied something I didn’t enjoy and had no idea what to do with my life.

Today, I’m earning money with what I’m passionate about. I’m in a healthy relationship with an incredibly supportive woman who checks most of the boxes. The toxic friends who once wreaked havoc in my life do so no longer. I know who I am, I’ve got a clear trajectory for my life and I work on my goals every day. …

And how to get out of it.

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The most important concept I learned from studying business at two of Europe’s top universities is about opportunity cost. The true cost of your doings is always higher than you think because you forego something else for it. Your time is finite and to say yes to A, you have to say no to B.

When you go on a one-month vacation complete with forays to remote natural wonders, mouthwatering local cuisine, and relaxing hour-long massages on a sleepy beach for $3000, that’s not the true price. …

What my high-school physics lessons can teach you about getting started.

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The face says it all. | Photo by Magnet.me on Unsplash

Procrastination. The word alone is enough to strike fear into your heart, remind you of all your unfinished work, and make your sweat glands work like a galley slave.

You, me, and everybody procrastinates. We push off what’s important but unpleasant in favor of what’s less significant but more amusing. We trade long-term benefits for short-term gratification.

It’s easy to fall into this trap. One moment you’re focused on your work and the next you’re watching fail compilations on YouTube. Or you don’t even get to the point where you start work but clean your apartment, sort out your clothes, and call your mum instead. …

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