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#9: Problems make you happy.

Some of the most important truths in life don’t make sense on the surface, but once you get beneath it, the world will never look the same.

I noticed this the first time I fell in love. There was a girl in my high school class I liked a lot. Shoulder-long, brown hair, beautiful face, a heart-melting laugh, and eyes I could’ve stared into forever, or at least until the bell announced the next algebra session.

Like most high school kids, I thought I just needed to be nice and loving for her to reciprocate my feelings. Spoiler: It didn’t…

…but repel them instead.

Attraction is a tough topic.

Men and women both sometimes go to ridiculous lengths to woo potential partners. But well-meant isn’t always well-done, as overinflated lips and guys posing in front of rented Lamborghinis show.

I know what it’s like. I tried to be the “alpha” guy for years until I realized the very behaviors I thought made me attractive turned me into the sexual equivalent of stale goulash soup. But men aren’t the only ones selling themselves out.

Both sexes do stupid things to be more attractive, but as a man who’s spent a few years of his life…

Lessons from hitting rock-bottom.

Two years ago, I was in a dark place. Mindless and pointless distractions ate away most of my time. A toxic relationship and negative friends held me back and sucked the energy out of me. I studied something I didn’t enjoy and had no idea what to do with my life.

Today, I’m earning money with what I’m passionate about. I’m in a healthy relationship with an incredibly supportive woman who checks most of the boxes. The toxic friends who once wreaked havoc in my life do so no longer. I know who I am, I’ve got a clear trajectory…

Set them up once, enjoy the benefits forever.

Last week, I stuck a post-it note to my bathroom door. I suffer from chronic poop & scroll syndrome, a terrible disease that turns quick bowel movements into soul-draining and thumb-crushing smartphone sessions. The reminder to leave my phone behind was the latest in my series of practical hacks to stop me from wasting my time.

This determination seems exaggerated, but in a world filled with attention-grabbing distractions, you better think twice about what you get hooked on. If you don’t, you’ll run out of it like Tiger Woods out of excuses when his wife caught him cheating on thanksgiving…

Turn aimless thoughts into tangible results.

Thinking is easy, doing is hard — which is why so few people have what they want.

One of my friends is a master thinker. Before he acts, he goes through every possible scenario in his head, carefully weighing pros and cons like a drug dealer Eightballs. Yet, he has the same relationship problems, job struggles, and personal issues he had a year ago. While he’s great at chess, life isn’t a board game. It rewards action.

I’m not saying you should jump before checking if the water is deep enough.

But overthinking is like running on a treadmill. You…

I wish someone would’ve told me earlier.

My first day at university didn’t go at all as I imagined.

I expected exciting lessons, pretty girls, and cold beers to seal new friendships. But after the dean’s welcome speech sucked the life out of everyone like a vampire after a three-century fast, I sat in the sun and sipped on a coffee to wake up from my delirium. Sam, another freshman, walked up to me.

“You’ve got grey hairs, you know that?”

The off-key greeting marked my momentous entry into adulthood. Just two years after finishing high school, reality hit me in the face like a wrecking ball…

…instead of forgetting them right away.

I don’t know you, but I know you’re a chronic masturbator. I am as well. Everybody is.

I’m not talking about private time under the bedsheets or in front of a computer screen spotting an orange-black logo — I’m talking about mental masturbation.

How many self-help articles did you read in the last few months — and how many actually changed your life? The ratio is probably the same as the stalk-to-needle one in the proverbial haystack.

Reading a book, watching a video, or listening to a podcast will improve your life the same way watching an adult movie will…

5 minutes of thinking can save you months of paying the price

Making decisions is hard. Making good ones is even harder. But with the right mental models, you’ll tremendously increase your chances of hitting the jackpot.

When I quit university to become a writer and personal development coach, the decision wasn’t easy. The stakes were high and the choice set the stage for the rest of my life. Had I done what everybody told me to, I’d be miserable in a cubicle right now instead of having fun writing this text.

Every decision you make shapes your life.

Choosing the right thing isn’t always easy. You have to deal with unknown…

Please don’t do what I did.

Nobody wakes up and says “today would be a great day to make mistakes.” Yet, they happen all the time.

You don’t mess up on purpose. Mistakes happen because things don’t always go as planned. You tell a corny joke to make people laugh, but all you get is disgusted faces. Been there, done that (more times than I can count.)

Mistakes cost you, sometimes more than you think.

While a bad joke will be forgotten the next day, other things won’t. Some blunders will cost you a ton of time, money, and energy to straighten out.

You have to control your ego backlash.

I never thought a high-school math problem would be an accurate representation of life. Sally the slug climbed a wall during the day but slid back down when she fell asleep at night, which is exactly what life feels like sometimes.

It’s like you’re jinxed. You were so proud of your accomplishments — you quit smoking, started eating more healthily, went to bed early, and even swapped the Netflix marathons for books. But at one point, you fell back into old behaviors.

Change is hard because you have to fight the only person who’s a worthy opponent — yourself.


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