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#6. Time turns from enemy into ally, then into enemy again.

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I’ll be honest with you. You don’t need to find your purpose to live a happy and fulfilled life — but it sure makes things a lot easier.

There’ll still be ups and downs, highs and lows, amenities and adversities. You won’t run out of struggles, but this time, you’ve got a good reason to fight through.

However, you won’t wake up one morning with a flash of genius, screaming “Eureka!” and saving the world in between a bulletproof coffee and the 8 am news.

Your path isn’t straight. There are no big, red arrows marking the way. …

Lessons from hitting rock-bottom.

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Two years ago, I was in a dark place. Mindless and pointless distractions ate away most of my time. A toxic relationship and negative friends held me back and sucked the energy out of me. I studied something I didn’t enjoy and had no idea what to do with my life.

Today, I’m earning money with what I’m passionate about. I’m in a healthy relationship with an incredibly supportive woman who checks most of the boxes. The toxic friends who once wreaked havoc in my life do so no longer. I know who I am, I’ve got a clear trajectory…

Entropy is the enemy.

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Productivity issues are like burning your dinner.

There can be a ton of reasons why your zucchini turned into a lump of coal. You might have set the oven too high, forgotten about the time, read the recipe wrong, or got distracted by a phone call. But no matter the details, in the end, it always comes down to the same thing: Too much heat.

Just like that, Googling “productivity advice” blasts you with 332 million results, yet most of your struggles come down to three main issues. …

…but repel them instead.

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Attraction is a tough topic.

Men and women both sometimes go to ridiculous lengths to woo potential partners. But well-meant isn’t always well-done, as overinflated lips and guys posing in front of rented Lamborghinis show.

I know what it’s like. I tried to be the “alpha” guy for years until I realized the very behaviors I thought made me attractive turned me into the sexual equivalent of stale goulash soup. But men aren’t the only ones selling themselves out.

Both sexes do stupid things to be more attractive, but as a man who’s spent a few years of his life…

#3: Your friendships are a double-edged sword.

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Most things are good and bad, depending on how you treat them.

Your relationship can be a great source of joy and support if you put in the work or become dull and draining if you neglect it.

Beer can be a great facilitator to socialize with friends if you drink responsibly, or an addictive drug wrecking your body if you use it as a coping mechanism.

Work can be fulfilling if you choose the right job or depressing if you’re stuck in the wrong one.

“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”

3 lessons about failure you can learn from extraordinarily successful people.

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Failure and success aren’t opposites — they’re both part of the same journey. Success is the destination, failure is the path.

But for most people, failure is something bad — associated with insufficient skills and ability. Whether you ask someone out who turns you down, your business goes belly-up, or you fall through the first interview round for your dream job — if you failed, you weren’t good enough.

It starts early in our lives. At school, there are right and wrong answers. Green checkmarks equal success, red crosses mean you’ll flip burgers at McDonald’s.

Consequently, you associate failures with…

There are two kinds of freedom. Choose wisely.

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Freedom isn’t what most people think it is.

They assume that to be free, you have to be able to do what you want, exactly how, where, and when you want it. While this sounds reasonable and tempting, life doesn’t work that way — I’ve tried.

For a year, I hitchhiked through Australia so I was free to go where buses and trains didn’t. …

…and what to focus on instead.

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Your perception shapes your reality. Your view determines what the world looks like to you — regardless of its actual state.

A recent McKinsey study found students’ mindsets are more important for their academic performance than their entire socioeconomic background.

Dr. Carol Dweck, an expert with 30 years of experience, TED speaker, and author of the book Mindset, comes to a similar conclusion: How you think about your abilities and yourself can dramatically impact the way you live.

Just like the right mindset packs incredible power, the wrong one can wreak havoc. …

They bring clarity, help me think long-term, and help me face my fears.

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Your life is the result of your decisions. If you want to improve it, you have to make better choices.

When I decided to quit a study program I didn’t enjoy, I became much happier.

When I decided to leave a toxic relationship, I set myself free.

When I decided to quit riding my motorbike, I very possibly saved my own life.

Had I chosen differently in these situations, things would’ve played out another way — for better or worse.

Your decisions define your life through the consequences they create.

Making the right decision is hard. Often, there isn’t a…

#2: You don’t have enough time.

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The better your problems, the better your life. We all face challenges. Big ones. Small ones. Sometimes, it seems our life is about to end when the universe places a particularly big turd in front of us. These struggles make up a pretty big part of our days. Easy problems, easy life. Hard problems, hard life.

Unfortunately, your brain loves to make mountains out of molehills. Thanks to your built-in negativity bias, adverse events and experience get a VIP seat at your mind’s table. …

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