Guilty as charged.
I believe it’s extremely important to have such a list — either in your mind or even written out.
The point isn’t to be crazy demanding but to have a firm view of who you are and what kind of qualities and traits a partner should bring with them to be a good match for you and have a blooming relationship.
That said, the qualities you pointed out aren’t uniquely female — they are essential to any good human being. And a good human being is what you should look for in any partner, regardless of man or woman.