Here's a perspective from a man who has written an article on apologizing.

Yes, the guys mentioned in the article have messed up and yes, not owning your mistakes is incredibly weak.

If you mess up, you own up to it and apologize. Period.

What they did is shameful, degrading, and ruthless, especially for someone in their position.

But here's the kicker:

This isn't a blame game of genders. This isn't about men or women. This is about the bad behavior of a human being.

Yes, it might be true that men in power have some very questionable behaviors and morals that manifest themselves in abuse.

It might even be true that most men show behaviors you consider disrespectful or abusive.

But how in the world does it help to stir up hatred against men in general? You immediately lose all sympathy with the innocent ones, and the ones who are guilty are laughing every time you do it because now they have another reason to denounce your efforts as crazy butthurt and irrational.

I don't feel personally attacked or offended (if I ever get offended by writing on the internet, slap me), but here's a little tip:

If you want men to show sympathy to your cause, stop portraying all of them as the root of all evil.

That might actually help to find a solution and foster mutual understanding.

If you want your efforts to be fruitful, stop blaming. It's not a men vs. women thing. It's men and women against the problem. And until you realize this, you'll never solve the problem.

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