Hey Smpaulettlaw, thanks for the thought-out response!
I think the framework you are referring to is the Relational Dimensions Instrument (RDI). It’s mentioned in this paper, about four or five paragraphs in.
I first stumbled upon the concepts I talk about in my article in a YouTube video of actualized.org and then did some major reflection on my past relationships, which fit the patterns perfectly.
As always, there‘s more than one way to skin a cat — in my case I’ve really got prime examples of codependency, independency, and interdependency. Other ways to look at it might work as well or even better.
Thanks again for your thoughts, have a great day! :)